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Raising a Family of Faith

May 13, 2007

 

The greatest and most valuable thing you can give your children is your faith.  Not your love - faith will encompass your love

 

 

Deut. 6:4                Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 

5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.  7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Deut. 6:10              When the LORD your God brings you into the land he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, to give you—a land with large, flourishing cities you did not build,  11 houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant—then when you eat and are satisfied,  12 be careful that you do not forget the LORD, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

 

To Raise a Family of Faith you must

Know your own faith and Live it

Your family starts with you.  Your faith is not a part of your life, it is your life

 

If we love the Lord with ALL our heart, soul, strength

If God is ONE – the language of is implies that God is the only one  - 

Everything else in my life is subject to God, it is submitted to God, his mind, will and values.  He sets the pattern for the rest of my life.

 

How?

 

Ø       Keep your own faith fresh

6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts

Today – Everyday – everyday you read this it is today.  You can not pass on to your kids what you do not have yourself.  Your faith can not be a history lesson or a philosophy lesson, but it must be a cooking class.  You make a meal every day, with fresh ingredients.

Ø       Influence your values

 

6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children.

 

Proverbs 27:19

As water reflects a face, so a man's heart reflects the man.   NIV

The greatest place your values will be evident is in your relationships

o        Value your relationships –

Marriage #1 

Simon Fraser University sociology professor Barb Mitchell “many people in the West have moved away from stabilizing influences of family support and also tend to be more agnostic.”

"We know religious influences can play a role in keeping people together," she said.

Divorce breaks up families

                               

Kids  do they know you love God first, their mom/dad second and then themselves?  Or is your job, friends, hobbies, school somewhere in those top 3?

 

Often today, the priority can look like this

                Kids  -  God           -  Spouse

 

Ø       Determine your actions – does your family know where you stand in regard to your faith?

Two realms where we live our faith:

Ø       Privately

 

Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

o        Family Devotional / prayer time?

o        Do you help make the connection between the physical world and God’s hand at work?

o        Are you kids involved in making family decisions that factor in what God is doing in your family?

 

Kids learn a lot about how to live out faith in the car or kitchen – they watch and learn how you talk about people, how you talk to one another,

 

Ø       Publicly

8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Does the way you live make a statement about your faith.  Can your extended family, friends, co-workers, neighbours see your faith, or is it conveniently hidden away?

 

o        Serve others as a family 

 

o        Let your children see you make your faith known

 

 

 

Another way we raise a family of faith is by having a vision of where you are going  ~  Start and build with an image of the end in mind

 

Ø       Leave a Legacy of Faith

A track record

 

For your children to know you love them is great, but when your gone your love will not sustain them – Faith will sustain them and help lead them to their own faith

 

Ø       Heritage of Faith – a look behind

A noble track record of life experiences lived in faith  ~ Israelites had a heritage of faith

10 When GOD, your God, ushers you into the land he promised through your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob to give you

Who passed faith on to you?

 

o        Share with your children the heritage of faith in your family – a journey of lives gone before and how they fit into that

 

2 Timothy 1:5

5 I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. NIV

 

You may not have revieved much of a legacy of faith ~ but you can leave one.  Faith is the most valuable thing you can pass on

 

You will leave your heritage behind ~ you will pass your inheritance into the future

Ø       Inheritance of Faith – a look ahead

 

Hope of security in the future

 

flourishing cities you did not build,  11 houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant—then when you eat and are satisfied,  12 be careful that you do not forget the LORD, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

 

Ecclesiastes 7:12

12 Wisdom is a shelter

as money is a shelter,

but the advantage of knowledge is this:

that wisdom preserves the life of its possessor.

 

o        Set a vision for your family of a future with faith

 

 

 

Let your children stand on the shoulders of your faith

 

Love sustains the day – Faith brings life to the future

 

God expects us to grow in our faith in community of others who belong to him

 

“Hear, O Israel”… “flourishing cities you did not build”

 

God made his promise of an inheritance to a community of people who belong to him – a faith community.  He expected his people to stay together, to live life together, share life together, share their faith together. 

 

Heb 10:24-25

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

 

o        Belong to a faith community

 

 

One of the ways you will build faith into your family is to build your family into a faith community.  For many of us ~ our extended family is far away, physically and or spiritually, and we need spiritual aunts & uncles.  We need grandparents of faith and that is what our church is to become

Parents – allow others to participate in raising your children ~ not just serve you as you raise your children, but participate. 

Church – we have a responsibility to serve & encourage our families and at times speak wisdom into their lives

 

Don’t abandon your children  ~  “faith abandonment”  ~  give them something of real sustaining value

 

God expects you to raise your family to Know Him, Love Him and make His love known

 

Live Your Faith ~ Leave a Legacy of Faith

 Set a Vision of Faith for your Family

 Grow in a Community of Faith

 

 

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